Words of inspiration

Sometimes what looks like a disappointment to us is simply God getting us into a position for the next level.

Instead of getting negative and bitter why don't you look @ it from a different angle and perspective, why don't you get a bigger view that some way, some how God is gonna turn it around for your favour and advantage.

God never aborts a dream, we may give up on it, we may delay it but the seed God has put in you never dies. All it takes is for you to start believing, have faith and trust Him.

Remember that God is always at work for the good of everyone who loves him. They are the ones God has chosen for his purpose, YOUR TIME IS COMING.

Have a blissful day and happy new month. Shalom!

Mixed reactions trail pastor Chris Oyakhilome's response on abortion

Mixed reactions trail Pastor Chris Oyakhilome’s response on abortion on facebook

- See more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/03/mixed-reactions-trail-pastor-chris-oyakhilomes-response-abortion-facebook/#sthash.Qd6GyYnt.dpuf

15 Courtship Tips for Women!!!!!

15 Courtship Tips for Women!!!!!

1. Only consider courtship at a time in your life when you are ready to consider marriage. Until that time-foster the virtue of friendship and hold off the romance until you are really ready for it.

2. Only enter into a courtship with a man whom you would consider marrying. A woman might consider "just" dating any guy that she's attracted to as long as she has no sense of long-term commitment. The problem arises when she's grown attached to him after a period of time and can't bring herself to break off the relationship, even when it's not good. She may end up marrying a man that she otherwise would not have. Set the stakes higher-only court with a man you'd consider marrying.

3. Enter a courtship to discern whether or not you are called to marriage with a certain man. Courtship is dating with a purpose. If you know that you would not consider marriage with this man, or you are not ready to consider marriage yet, then don't enter into a courtship. Stay as friends or acquaintances for the time being. Courtship is about prayerful discernment, which means you will decide either that God is not calling you to marriage with this man or that He is. Both outcomes are valid in a courtship!

4. Take time through prayer to discern God's will. You need to foster prayer in your lives individually and as a couple. You cannot know God's will without prayer.

5. Base your courtship in the family: As much as possible, spend time with each other's families. This is so important-for if you do end up married, you'll want to get along. Family is an invaluable resource and such an integral part of who we are. You will learn much about each other by seeing how each other relates to family members. And your family, in turn, can give you much insight about the man with whom you are courting (and his family, about you!) Family sees things we don't always see. Love can be blind at times-family (and friends) can really help to correct our vision. If you are far from family, make every effort to get home and spend time with them. And in the meantime, adopt a family (friends from Church, for example) to provide for you all the benefits of a family-based courtship. (If you do not live near your family refer to the article "What If My Family Lives Far Away?".)

6. Emotional Intimacy: Guard your hearts and do not dive emotionally into a courtship relationship head first. Give yourselves time to learn about each other. Do not open up all your intimate secrets, desires and longing to each other immediately-jus¬t because you are courting. Allow your relationship to grow naturally. Keep the mystery alive by not revealing everything all at once. The problem with "dumping" on each other emotionally early on in a relationship is that if you later discern that you are not called to marriage you could have many regrets over having shared those intimate thoughts and secrets with someone who will not be your husband. You need to be honest with each other, but that does not mean you have to reveal everything right away. As the relationship grows, you will discover a natural pace for sharing those emotional intimacies.

7. Physical Intimacy: Decide what your limits will be and write them down. Remember that as you store up your treasures of physical intimacy before marriage-every sacrifice that you make to stay pure becomes a jewel for you to share with each other in marriage. At that time-you will be able to delight in the beauty of giving yourselves to each other completely and totally. And your pleasure in marriage will be magnified by your time of waiting.

8. How, where and when you spend time alone: During courtship you obviously will want and need to spend time alone together. But how and where are important questions. If you are spending time alone late at night or in complete isolation, you may just find that your resistance to temptation is weakened. It's best to find time alone together while doing something-going¬ for a walk, cycling, canoeing, playing sports, taking in a show or going out to a restaurant, etc.

9. Avoid the near occasion of sin. This is not to say that a couple who is courting will only stick to their goal of purity if they are NEVER alone together , as if to say the only reason they resisted temptation is because they never went near temptation. But there is a teaching that exhorts us to "avoid the near occasion of sin". We should not deliberately put ourselves in temptation's way. Hopefully, any couple who makes these resolutions-eve¬n if they were given the opportunity to break them-wouldn't break them, because they are persons of integrity! But we are all weak at times. All it takes is one moment of weakness (and be sure Satan will be watching for it) for you to make a mistake that you could regret for a lifetime.

10. Don't give rise to scandal. But what if we're not being tempted? Why wouldn't it be alright to be off, alone, in isolation together-for example staying late over at one or the other's apartment alone? This is where we get into the whole issue of giving rise to scandal. The problem a couple faces here-even if they are strong enough to resist all temptation-is the impression they are giving to others. "So what?" You may ask. "Let them gossip-what do we care? We know we're not doing anything wrong!" When others perceive you to be leading an impure life, it gives others a sense of it being okay to not embrace purity in their own relationships. They'll be thinking, "After all, they're doing it and they're a nice Christian couple. Obviously it doesn't make any difference if we do or don't." Even though you had been embracing purity, you still misled others to believe you weren't. In this way you would not be helping to build the body of Christ by your good example. Rather, through the scandal you would have given rise to, you would have inadvertently led others to sin. It is our sense of responsibility in the body of Christ that leads us to make the necessary sacrifices for the sake of others when we decide not to give rise to scandal.

11. Accountability:¬ We all are more responsible when we are held accountable for our actions. Make a list together of your resolutions and guidelines for your courtship and give that list to some mentoring couples and accountability partners. These could be your parents, other married couples from Church, friends, roommates, family members. Basically you are looking for people you trust and respect to be able to talk with openly about your relationship. They should be able to ask you at any time how you are doing-if you are keeping your resolutions-and¬ you need to be able to answer them honestly.

12. Mentoring: Along with this idea is the need for mentoring couples-ideally¬ that would be your parents, but it is not limited to parents. These couples should be well-versed in the Church's teachings on marriage and the sacraments. They should be couples who can advise you on all kinds of issues related to marriage: finances (especially tithing), family networking, Natural Family Planning and the gift of human sexuality, balancing work and family life and so on.

13. Time to pray and time to play: Obviously prayer time is important for a couple who is courting-as they are trying to discern God's will for their relationship. But a couple should never neglect to be sure to allow for play time! Have fun. This season of life should be fun and filled with excitement and adventure. Don't forget to make time to play.

14. Keep the romance alive: Remember that courtship is a time of romance. Don't cheat yourselves out of that. Enjoy dynamic, exciting, God-glorifying romance by seeking ways to give of yourselves to each other, to serve each other and to show your love for each other in simple ways. Romance-true romance-is about blessing the other by giving of self; and that's what true love is about, too. So you see, the two go hand in hand. Couples who engage in an intense physical relationship often lose out on this very point-because physical pleasure has become the focus of their relationship. By converse, couples who do not distract themselves with physical intimacy have more time on their hands to spend creatively doing romantic things for each other and together blessi¬ng each other with their loving deeds and gestures as often as they can.

15. Be active in your faith community: Courtship is a great time to grow in faith together-and to spend time together in your faith community. In this way your relationship is supported by like-minded people who will become for you that community that celebrates with you in times of joy, consoles you in times of grieving, and that lifts you up you in times of hardship. We cannot live in isolation-we need that community to be there for us, which means, we need to be there for them as well. Be involved, have fun taking in events and activities together, volunteer service time together, and join in prayer groups and Bible studies together. These opportunities to spend time together, in a larger group setting, help you to learn much about each other by seeing how each other deal with a variety of situations and other persons and are great opportunities to dedicate your time and talents to the Lord.

 By (LOVE, Dating and Marriage - LDM )

Windows 8.1 released with with malicious code for IT prof

Windows 8.1 includes a variety of security controls designed to guard against malware compromise during the boot process. 
http://www.techrepublic.com/article/windows-81-gives-malicious-code-the-boots/#ftag=RSS56d97e7

The Windows operating system has a number of security controls, and most users have some sort of anti-malware security suite installed on their Windows PC -- but those things can’t protect you until the operating system is up and running. There are threats out there that can compromise a system during the boot process, before the Windows defenses are enabled. Microsoft recognized this threat and developed additional protections during the boot process.

There are three different boot protections, and which ones work on your system depends on the hardware you have in place. Let’s examine the different boot security controls and how they work, so you can understand what protection you have in place during the boot process on your PC.

Trusted Boot

The primary boot process security control is called Trusted Boot. It monitors the boot process and guards against malicious code trying to hide or execute. If malware is able to load before the Windows security controls and anti-malware tools are active, it can hide from those tools or compromise their ability to detect threats.

Trusted Boot makes sure that the Windows components that are loaded during the boot process have not been altered or tampered with by malware and that anti-malware software is loaded ahead of any third-party applications or device drivers. In the event that malware is successfully loaded during the boot process, Trusted Boot attempts to automatically remediate the issue and remove the threat.

Measured Boot

This feature complements Trusted Boot and provides third-party verification and attestation that the boot process is secure. Measured Boot only works on systems with a Trusted Platform Chip (TPC). Measured Boot takes measurements of each phase of the boot process, and it signs and securely stores the data in the TPM.

The measurements can also be used as an additional layer of defense. The data can be sent to a Remote Attestation Service that compares the measurements against known good values and validates that the boot process is secure. The Remote Attestation Service can issue a Device Claim, certifying the PC as secure, and that Device Claim (or lack thereof) can be used to control access to the network.

Secure Boot

Secure Boot takes Trusted Boot to the next level on Windows 8 certified systems, which includes the Unified Extensible Firmware Interface (UEFI). It prevents rootkits and other malware from loading during the boot process, because only authorized code signed with a recognized certificate is allowed to execute.

If you want to boot an unsigned or unrecognized operating system on a Windows 8 certified PC -- either standalone or in a dual-boot configuration -- you can disable the UEFI Secure Boot option. With Secure Boot disabled, the boot process is less secure.

Summary

To sum up your options, Trusted Boot works on systems even without a TPM or UEFI. Measured Boot and Attestation of boot measurements are only possible on systems that have a TPM to securely store the signed measurement data. Secure Boot required hardware that supports UEFI.

No matter what boot protection you use, the bottom line is that Microsoft has taken steps to secure the boot process and ensure that malicious code is not able to run during boot up, before the operating system and security software are active to defend against them.

What boot protection do you have on your Windows 8.1 machine(s)? Has it ever failed to protect your system from malware? Share your experience in the discussion thread below.

Inspirational Timely Note

Time is a friend to no one. Time has no relationship with anyone, it's everyone that has to be in a relationship with time. TIME DOESN'T NEED YOU, YOU NEED TIME TO STRUCTURE YOUR LIFE. Time is the most important resource that God gave to man, and He gave every man equal time. Everyone has 24 hours to himself in a day, everyone has 7 days to himself in a week. WHAT YOU DO WITH TIME DETERMINES WHAT YOU GET FROM LIFE. I've heard many individuals say "I don't have time", but it's important to state here that YOU'D NEVER HAVE TIME FOR WHAT YOU'VE NOT CREATED TIME FOR.

The reason why many individuals don't attend church services during the week is not because they don't have time enough to attend those services, but because they've not created time for them. Many people are too busy to even read their book. They forget that READING IS PART OF LIVING! This is why many of them end up terminated, because they lack the knowledge for the moment. Your employer may instruct you to close by 5PM; and professionally, everything you should do from resumption to closing hour should be for your employer. And eventhough having a job is a good thing, it's not the best thing you need in your life. JUST LIKE YOUR EMPLOYER BUYS YOUR TIME TO BRING HIS BEST OUT OF HIM, YOU ALSO NEED TO INVEST YOUR TIME TO BRING THE BEST OUT OF YOU.

That's how far we'd go on today's Timely Notes! But take these last words: NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, DON'T ALLOW THE TIGHT SCHEDULE OF YOUR JOB, SCHOOL, OR FAMILY TO DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE. MAKE OUT TIME FOR THOSE THINGS THAT GUARANTEES SUCCESS IN YOUR LIFE. Have a most fruitful day! In Jesus precious name!
Culled from Emeka Anselem 

Why Don't (most) Women Admit They Want Marriage?

I've always been a person who valued romance and relationships. I consider myself a ‘cupid’ and I have always been one to match people up, starting way back in elementary school. I found joy when a boy & girl liked each other. Even now, when people come to me with their relational problems, I try to be objective and make sure that no one breaks up or blows up over trivial issues. I like to see people in healthy, happy relationships. Break-ups hurt my heart. I feel that people are truly at their best and most fulfilled when they have someone who genuinely loves and supports them by their side.
There is a common piece of advice given to those who are going for something they want: If you can't name it, you can't get it. if we're too ashamed or afraid to say the things we want loud, then how can we ever expect to actually be able to get the courage to go for it? That is how love works, too.

After hearing from dozens of women, I have noticed a pattern. Single women seem to pretend a lot about loving their single status, so much that they often undermine their chances of getting married even though, secretly, that is what they want. 

Here is the point: 

If you tell everyone you're happy single, insist you don't want a man, and tell everyone who will listen that you love your life as it is, how can you ever expect a man to think you want to get married? That is the vibe you send. And while acting desperate isn't attractive, why is it so hard for so many women to be honest about their dreams in love?

Well being single has its perks. Marriage is no constant picnic and it won't solve every 

problem you've ever had. There is no doubt I would rather be single forever than spend too much time in a miserable marriage. But why can't women say, "I want to have a happy marriage"? Are they afraid if they say it, they will seem desperate or people will feel badly for them if it never happens?

Marriage isn't just a "slip of paper." It's a public declaration of your love, a promise to one another that you are in it for the long haul and you want it recognized.

It's OK to desire it and more women need to be able to say it. You can enjoy being single and want to be married someday at the same time. Both can co-exist and there is no shame in admitting the truth.

Man Dies in romp with sex worker in Aba Abia state

ABA — A man, identified as Ogadinma Chukwu, has lost his life while having sex with a commercial sex worker at a popular brothel located on St. Michael’s Road, Aba, Abia State.

Sources said the deceased, whom they alleged to be a regular visitor to the brothel, died while romping the prostitute.

It was gathered that immediately Chukwu slumped and died, the prostitute contacted her colleagues and the manager of the brothel who moved his corpse to a sanitary lane at the back of the brothel.

As a result of the development, shop owners around the area quickly closed business for fear of police arrest.

Those who spoke anonymously to our reporter disclosed that some staff of the brothel at about 5 p.m. brought out the corpse through their back door, dropped it at the sanitary lane and disappeared.

When our correspondent visited the area, the brothel was deserted as people were gathering at the adjoining St. Michael’s Road by York Street junction and Hospital Road.

A cross section of sympathizers said the deceased might have died of a cardiac arrest or exhaustion as white foam gushed out of his mouth.

Policemen from the Aba Central Police Station, who conducted a search at the scene, recovered an ATM card, a cheque book, cash of over N200,000 and a Man O’ War Association of Nigeria identity card, bearing the name, Ogadinma Chukwu.

Contacted, the Commander, Man O’ War Association, Aba, Uche Egbuziem, identified Ogadinma Chukwu as a former member of the association, stressing that the deceased and some other members of the group still use their old identity cards.

Abia Police Public Relations Officer, PPRO, ASP Geoffrey Ogbonna, could not be reached for comments at press time, but a senior police officer said the corpse had been deposited in a mortuary.

He said an autopsy would be conducted to determine the cause of the man’s death.

Culled from Vanguard.

Public Alert: Armed Robbery Has Taken A New Dimension In Nigeria

An unconfirmed source who is a Nigerian Naval Officer that armed robbery has taken a new dimension in Nigeria especially Lagos given the abundant ATMs in Lagos.

He said that armed robbers now visit ATMs on Friday evenings so as to forcefully collect the ATM cards and PIN codes of customers. According to him, they approach you with a smile while you are attempting to make a transaction, display their guns and also point to their colleagues around in case you attempt to play smart by refusing or screaming. They then collect your ATM cards and asks for your PIN codes. They confirm the PIN there to know if it’s fake.

Their intention is to withdraw at least the Bank ATM withdrawal limit of N100,000 daily between that Friday, Saturday and Sunday. They do this criminal acts on Friday evenings when they know Banks have closed for the day and are on weekend break.

Join Nigeria's Coordinating Minister of the Economy online discussion Budget 2014

Budget 2014 Jam

The Youth Engage Okonjo-Iweala
Join the Coordinating Minister of the Economy and Honorable Minister of Finance Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala in a live, online conversation on the 2014 Budget from 4th to 6th of March, 2014.

The Budget 2014 Jam is a 3-day online interactive conversation between the Hon. Minister and the youth aged 18-40. This is your opportunity to share your thoughts/ideas with the Minister on the 2014 budget and its impact on the nation moving forward.

If you would like to be part of this free, online conversation please register now. Participation will be on a first come, first serve basis.

You can access the online discussion using a laptop or tablet device. Be advised that it is not optimal on a smart phone. Register athttps://www.collaborationjam.com/jam4/budget2014/registration/

See you in the Jam!
What is a Jam?
A jam is an online event that brings together thousands of people from across the country to discuss issues in real time from wherever they are located. The Minister of Finance and Coordinating Minister for the Economy Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala is hosting the online interactive session with youth this year on the 2014 Budget.
Objective of the Jam

The jam is meant to educate and engage participants on topical issues through a series of online discussion forums. All participants have an opportunity offer suggestions as well as exchange ideas on how to move the country forward. In this particular instance, the Ministry of Finance would like to hear from the youth on issues that affect them related to the 2014 Budget.
Target Audience for the Jam
The event seeks to engage as many as 20,000 people between the ages of 18 and 40. The jam is available on a first come, first serve basis with the first 20,000 to register able to participate in the online discussion.
How to Participate in the Jam
You can register from the 24th of February athttps://www.collaborationjam.com/jam4/budget2014/registration/.

You can also find the link for registration on the Minister's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/ngoziokonjoiweala

Twitter page: https://twitter.com/NOIweala

Or the Ministry of Finance Website: http://www.fmf.gov.ng

The jam goes live on March 4th by 8am and runs continuously until March 6th. Join us at any point in those three days for as little or as long as you want!
The Proposed Areas for Discussion are

1. Managing our Debt
2. Stimulating Job Creation
3. Keeping the lights on
4. Spending Wisely
5. Managing our Budget
6. Increasing Revenue

Log in and start jamming!